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you may not know this, but as a chem e. I had to work in a plant and I learned about the many different kinds of valves

ballvalves, check valves, choke valves, gate valves, butterfly valves...

they use different valves for different purposes. some are for strictly on and off, some are for flow control, some for solids, some for liquids, some for gas... two way and three way valves... there are even those that stop reverse flow and others that use freezing to stop flow...

crazy hunh?

personalities are very widespread, yet we can narrow most people to one of 16 personality types (using the MBTI)

anyway, back to my point, I think that personalities are a lot like valves...

some can't control the flow - so it's all or nothing for them... some are stuck so all you get is a trickle...
some leak, so you will always get something, even when you don't want anything
some freeze, some just go everywhere, some can't make decisions...

you get the picture.

where was I going with this?

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good question.

where was I going with this?

I was going to make some kind of correlation between different kinds of valves and personalities, but I don't know enough different valves to cover the 16 mbti types. plus, after a bit of research, the mbti types are almost like horoscopes - they are vague enough that they will fit whatever personality type you think you want, plus the people that invented the tests aren't even psychologists and the results from them are questionable. you also really can't do a double blind, because how the hell do you know what a person is thinking? you don't, you can only ask them and hope they aren't lying.

people don't need therapists because they want to get help, they see therapists to validate themselves, to get permission to do the things they think they want to do.

here's the clincher. you have a choice. one or the other or another.

you pick one and then you live with the consequences. don't hem and haw about it.

just go.

if you don't you will be stuck in a rut for the rest of your life.

but that's the problem, isn't it.

consequences.

people are afraid to live with the aftermath of their decisions. I don't blame them, I'm scared as hell to make decisions that will change the life to which I have become accustomed. we want things in a neat little package with all of the answers all wrapped up and waiting to be opened. the problem is, there will never be that package, that package does not exist. there is no easy way.

"life isn't fair. it's just fairer than death, that's all." ~ goldman, the princess bride

so open up your valve before you permanently rupture and destroy your life line.

peace outside.

so, I think they fixed the lights just above and behind my cube... it's noticably brighter, and that is the only thing I can think of, unless my eyes are getting better.

it's amazing what you get used to, and then when you get something better, you realize how much better it is now...
or the opposite, how you've had something so good for so long, but then when you drop it for something else, you realize how much better you had it where you were, as opposed to you have have now...

crazy.